Working From the Heart (A Lesson in Keeping It Real)

  When I was in college I was a part of this big time summer research project. I was triple excited about it because UM basically paid me to read books and write about them. I was like, “Read. Write. Money. Sign me up.” There was only 1 professor on campus at the time who…

Big Hairy Goal Meets Blog: Love or Nah?

On October 16th, I will walk a half marathon. This is either the bravest or the dumbest idea I have ever had in my whole entire life (and I’ve had some pretty harebrained ideas). A half marathon is 13.1 miles of nonstop movement. In addition to committing myself to endure 13.1 miles of nonstop movement,…

mother appeal

he is crying i cannot get him to take another step he is yelling they kill us! they kill us! i’m too little to do anything!   it was just a quick pizza run just up the street a hot ‘n ready in hand home for a night of last year’s blockbusters but he will…

a woman with an issue (sermon from a couch)

there was a woman with an issue. 12 years she lived with a hemorrhage. 12 years, she bleed. all her money spent. no one could tell her why. no one could cure her of the issue. for 12 years, she lived. sick. tired. ostracized. alienated. defiled. broke. defeated. who doesn’t understand this woman. this woman…

on the promotion of amiri baraka to ancestor

the truth is i don’t know what the hell i am doing   i am wholly unprepared for the life of the erudite   i cannot yet be promoted to mentor least of all sage   i’m still sitting here figuring shit out   i pay my bills and i make sure my child is…

if nothing else, you gotta respect the hood (the motherhood that is)

everyday i stand in complete awe of my position as a mother. and by awe i mean i’m generally scarred shitless about the wellspring of responsibility that is mine to navigate. and for those holier than thou types, take a moment and think about it…as a mom you hold the key to your child’s soon-to-be-adult…

Grown Up, Gifted and Working to Make a Difference

I grew up gifted. One day I was a snotty nosed 4th grader with double plaits, a champion Chinese jax competitor and neighborhood double dutch Jedi. The next I was given a test, put on a yellow bus and shipped off to a school for ‘special’ kids. To say it pissed me off would be an…

Telling the Truth…Marriage, What Hollywood Covers Up

I’m being honest when I tell you the statement ‘I want to be married‘ makes me throw up a bit in my mouth. Especially when it’s coupled with that faraway wistful stare that generally accompanies the desire to take an expensive trip. I just don’t thinks marriage should be approached with the same projection as…

Wanda’s Rules for Weight Loss: Rule #8 Always Eat Dessert

What is the point of all this bitter if you’re going to deny yourself the sweet? I was raised in a household where dinner was only over after dessert was served. I am a big fan of dessert. I believe in it and can honestly say that if dessert were a religion I would pay…

Wanda’s Ruled for Weight Loss: Rule #5 Food is Fuel

Eating with feeling is not the same as eating because of a feeling. There are dozens of books out there about the emotional connections we make with food. I’ve read quite a few of them myself in an effort to understand how I became such an ’emotional’ eater (per one of my many Weight Watcher…