“Mom let’s take a walk today.” It’s a common request in my house now. He asks this question so casually. Mostly it’s not even an question behind it the assumption that we will be walking. It’s only a matter of when and where. Walking has been my solace since I was a little girl….
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the eternal quest for authentic rest…i might do better looking for the holy grail
You know that moment when you’ve finally settled in to catch your favorite television program? I mean the drudgery is all taken care of…dishes, laundry, dog fed, lunches are packed and ready for consumption tomorrow. Right. That moment. After everyone is bathed, prayed, and tucked in. That moment when you grab your cup of tea…
without repudiation, i am a prisoner of hope
My mother prayed. Fervently with supplication and dedication, I would listen as she and her prayer circle covered every family member from the youngest to the most infirm, asking God’s grace and healing over their lives. My mother prayed. I listened to her words. Memorized her pleas. Later folded them into my own. My mother…
If It Looks Like Madness but takes Serious Planning Chances Are It’s Working
I create a different curriculum each year for the therapy groups I facilitate. I don’t call my groups therapy like most social workers. There are no children of incarcerated parents group, no ADHD group, nor is there a social skills group. Kids hate having to go to ‘those’ groups. Although they will loudly proclaim…
for phife. dawg.
there is no justice in this place little girl dreams get washed away with yesterday’s news and little boys are never taught that dreams can in fact come true we walk fine lines in this in between times where the end is not near but here an ending to the illusion that we are separate…
Reluctant Alpha Prefers Long Walks and Big Books to Power Plays and Positions of Fame
Here’s the thing I may be an ‘alpha’ female but that doesn’t mean I want to lead anybody anywhere. I think that’s the misnomer for all people labeled ‘alpha.’ The assumption is we just want to take over the place. But the reality is mostly we just want shit done right the first time….
From EEG to Run DMC: Happy Monday to Me
This morning I woke up and decided to put on makeup. At around 7:50am I looked in the mirror and thought, “Way to go good looking!” Snapped my fingers two times and concluded, “I should date.” Not more than 2 and a half hours later I’d fielded 3 phone calls from my son…
The Case for Hogwarts (Raising a Wizard in this Muggle World)
My son is brilliant. I know most people believe their children are brilliant and bombard complete strangers with pictures and statuses about how their children’s brilliance outshines the brilliance of the average star…but my kid actually is. Trust me on this, I’m a professional. I know kids. They’re my genius. So with my genius kid…
Working From the Heart (A Lesson in Keeping It Real)
When I was in college I was a part of this big time summer research project. I was triple excited about it because UM basically paid me to read books and write about them. I was like, “Read. Write. Money. Sign me up.” There was only 1 professor on campus at the time who…
Mama in the Hood or The Greatest Show On Earth
Today I told him, “There ain’t one dummy in this family! You Will NOT BE THE FIRST!” Mamahood is hard. It’s an ever vigilant watch over every detail of someone else’s life. Somedays I feel like a CEO in full possession of my team and lair. I delegate and shit gets done. On time. The…
fearfree living 